This is the second interview for Count on Me: Tales of Sisterhoods and Fierce Friendships virtual Book Tour organized by Condor Book Tours. Las week, Las Comadres interviewed author Lorraine López about her story in this wonderful anthology. To read the interview visit http://www.labloga.blogspot.com/2012/12/guest-comadres-golden-age-of-bookstores.html
Today, Las Comadres interview author Reyna Grande.
Reyna Grande on Count on Me
LAS COMADRES: Have you had a chance to read any of the stories?
REYNA: I
have. I think I have read most of the stories and I’m really impressed with
them and I think that my favorite is Carolina DeRobertis’ piece- because it was
very profound and I just love her writing .As I was reading it, a lot times I
felt like getting up to grab a highlighter so I could highlight some of those
sentences because they were just absolutely beautiful. The last essay which I
just read last night was Luis Alberto Urrea’s piece. And again, they’re just
really incredible and very touching and I love the topic – writing about a
Comadre. The comadres that I am reading about are just really amazing people.
LAS COMADRES:
Is there a character in the book you most identify with?
REYNA: I
think I just really enjoy reading these stories because every writer who has
written a story for the anthology, they all come from… it’s just interesting to
me to see how the writing prompt which was to write about a comadre, how
everybody just made that their own, you know? And how diverse each story is…
and that is what I really like about this and also I love learning about who
the people in their lives are because some of these writers and some of them I
have met in person and some of them I haven’t met in person but I’ve read their
work and these essays are so personal.
But, it really gives me a chance to get to know them through these
pieces they turned in for the anthology. For me that’s been one of the reasons why
I enjoyed reading the anthology so much because it really gives me a chance to
get to know these authors whose works I admire; to get to know them in a more
personal level.
LAS COMADRES: Your story is about a mentor and about
friend, about somebody that… really – truly is credited with where you are and
how you moved forward as a student. What do you hope readers get out of your
personal story?
REYNA: Well
there’s two things, the first thing is that what I would like them to see is
that when you are going through really difficult times its okay to ask for
help. I think that sometimes we fail to do that; sometimes we are dealing with
problems on our own and we’re afraid to seek help. And for me- that was the
best thing I could ever do was to go look for Diana and to share with her what
I was going through. Otherwise she wouldn’t have known about it and wouldn’t
have been able to offer that help to me.
The other thing that I would like my readers to learn from my story is
how teachers and especially right now – with the situation that education is in
– with so many teachers that are being criticized and being laid off and all
these horrible things that are happening to teachers right now I would like
people to see what a big difference a teacher makes in the life of a student.
There’re so many people like Diana who go above and beyond what a teacher is.
They don’t just limit their teaching to the classroom. (But) They also care
about their students enough that they worry about their students’ personal lives
and what’s going on outside the classroom with them. For me – this is my love letter to Diana and all teachers.
LAS COMADRES:
So Diana, does she know about it?
REYNA: Yeah,
she knows about it. I sent her a copy just before I submitted it. I wanted her
to read it, (just) out of respect, because I wanted (her) to see what I had
written about her, and I wanted her to tell me if she was okay with that. Just to get her approval. Yeah, she… I think the first time I
ever thanked Diana for what she did for me was in 1999 when I graduated from UC
Santa Cruz and the university actually flew her up there so that she could be
at my graduation. So, Diana knows and I always make sure to tell Diana how
grateful I am for everything she’s done for me. She was very happy when I told her about the anthology and
when I told her I was writing about her.
LAS COMADRES: So, you’ve seen the theme of the book
and the topic of everybody choosing to write about a comadre. Do you think
there’s a distinction between saying you have a friend or saying you have a
comadre?
REYNA: In a
way – yes, because a comadre, (I think) its a little bit more than a friend.
You know, I think the meaning of a comadre definitely goes beyond just a
regular friendship. And, for me – that’s why I consider Diana my comadre,
because she’s not just a friend that goes in and out of my life. She’s someone that’s really important
and whom I’ve known for a long time and who knows everything about me and who is
always there for me. And, she accepts me for who I am, and she has always been
very encouraging, always pushing me to become a better person. So to me –
that’s what a comadre is – and it’s someone you know and you want to have a
relationship with for the rest of your life.
LAS COMADRES: So why do you think – give me three (if
you can narrow it down to three) main reasons why a woman needs a comadre in
her life.
REYNA: Well,
I think a woman needs a comadre because… there’s always going to be moments in
your life that you cannot face on your own and they can be great moments that
you want to share with someone and they could be very difficult moments that
you need someone to hold your hand, to tell you that things are going to be
okay. And sometimes your family – you might not have that kind of relationship
with the family member, and you might find it in a friend that might give you
that support and who can be there for you when you need her.
LAS COMADRES: Now I'm going to shift
over to questions about you. Where
do you get your inspiration from – not just from writing – but just life in
general? Are there sources that you get your inspiration from?
REYNA: I’ve
always drawn my inspiration from my childhood experiences because I had a
pretty difficult childhood and a lot of the things that happened were just very
traumatic and they left a lot of scars.
And what I've always done –(like) with my writing but also with
anything, anything that I try to do; any goals that I have. I always look at my
childhood and all the hardships that I went thru and the sacrifices that had to
be made. I always tell myself that I have to honor those sacrifices and I have
to honor all that pain and hardship and heartbreaks that I went through. The
way to do that is by making good choices and by working hard to make my dreams
a reality. (So), you know things sometimes get hard but I always tell myself
that I have gone through worse. If I made it through that, I can make it thru
anything.
LAS COMADRES:
So you use your experiences in your childhood.
REYNA: Yeah,
I think I definitely learned a lot when I was a kid about sacrifices and
working hard and not letting anything bring me down. I learned to find my inner
strength. And that’s what I …when
things get hard or I have challenges that I’m dealing with, I always look at my
childhood and try to find that strength that I know is there within me.
LAS COMADRES: Are there specific literary works that you might draw your
inspiration from?
REYNA: I
have a lot of favorite books, actually and sometimes when I have writers block
and I can’t write, I go to those books and I read through them and I find my
favorite sections and I get inspired again to write. Some of those books are The
House on Mango Street by Sandra Cisneros, which
is one of my favorites; The Prophet, by
Kaliel Gibron; and I like The Fountainhead by Ann Rand; and I like Margaret Atwood’s works also. So that’s what I do –I just look thru
my bookcase and pick out a book and I read – and then pretty soon I feel like
writing again.
LAS COMADRES: What do you consider your greatest
achievement?
REYNA: My
greatest achievement is getting my MFA, because I come from a family that
didn’t have a lot of opportunities when it came to education. I know - my
grandmothers …probably only went to first or second grade and my own father
only went up to the third grade. My mother only studied up to the sixth grade.
So, you know going from that kind of background to having an MFA and being the
first in my family to graduate from college – to me, that’s the greatest thing
because I feel that because I have been able to accomplish that – now my own
children are going to go to college and my nieces and nephews are going to go
to college because I’ve done it already.
I can push them to do it; I can give them advice; I can guide them through
their college experience.
LAS COMADRES:
Yes, you’ve definitely changed the future for your family, for the next
generation…sometimes I think we take that for granted.
REYNA: Yeah,
I think so too. But I always tell
people –especially, you know I do a lot of speaking at high schools – I always
tell those kids that it only takes one person to change the course of a family.
And so I encourage them to be that one person that going to make a difference.
LAS COMADRES:
Do you get a chance to spend much with family? …with family from Mexico?
REYNA: Oh,
from my family from Mexico… I don’t get to see them a whole lot. I try to go to
Mexico as often as I can – which is not as often as I would like. I would say
maybe like every three to four years I’ll go to Mexico to visit my family. And
I have some uncles and aunts and cousins down there and I like to go there
because it keeps me humble. You know, I think sometimes I lose sight of things
and sometime I forget that there are people that have less than I have and that
I shouldn’t complain or that I shouldn’t want more than what I have. So when I
go down there, it makes me appreciate what I do have and it snaps me back into
reality. Like for example, a few
years ago when I had my daughter we were living in a two-bedroom house and one
bedroom was for me and my husband and the second bedroom was for my son and
when we had my daughter she was sharing our bedroom. You know we had her crib in our bedroom. And then my husband
and I decided to start looking for a bigger house. Now that we had two kids we
said “well, lets look for a three bedroom house” and I went to Mexico around
that time that we were looking for houses. I went to Mexico to see my family
and my uncle said ‘oh, what’s new in your life” and I just started telling him
that we were house hunting and we were looking into a bigger house because my
daughter, who was nine months old, needed to have her own bedroom. And then, I just caught myself and I
looked around and I realized who I was talking to; and I was talking to my
uncle who lived in a one room shack with his seven children and his wife and
I’m telling him that we need a bigger house because my nine-month old needs her
own bedroom. Do you know what I’m saying?
LAS COMADRES:
Yeah, yeah – it snaps you back to reality.
REYNA: I
wanted to slap myself. It’s so inconsiderate and I wasn’t doing it to brag or
to be inconsiderate. I just lost sight of where I was or whom I was talking
to…. Then I realized that over here in the US, a lot of times we want a bigger
house and we want a bigger car and we want more of this and more of that and a
lot of times we’re not happy with what we have. When I go to Mexico – I
remember that. I remember that!
And that’s why I try to go -so that I don’t forget where I come from.
LAS COMADRES:
Do you have a favorite motto or quote – something that stays with you every
day? That guides you?
REYNA: Well,
there’s one that kind of ties in to what I was just talking about, and it goes
“The less I want, the less I need”
LAS COMADRES: Do you know who said it?
REYNA: I
don’t know who said it…but it just stayed with me. You know I try to say that
to myself everyday. ‘The less I
want, the less I need’ because sometimes I do start wanting things that I
really don’t need. So, I say that to myself. And then, there is a quote by Ernest Hemmingway that I
really love about writing. “There’s not much to writing, you just sit down at
the typewriter and bleed”. I love that quote because I feel like a lot of times
people don’t understand what – all the emotional exhaustion that comes when you
write because you really are bleeding, you know. Especially like my writing – I write about pain and about
loss and my writing is really depressing because it comes from this part of
myself that has a lot of that pain that just needs to come out. A lot of times
when I'm done writing for the day, I just feel so emotionally exhausted, and I
do feel that I just bled all over the page.
